I decided not to propose any sessions this time and instead just decided to attend sessions that sparked my interest or would bring some new learning my way. What I had not prepared for was learning from students. The second session of the day that caught my eye was titled. Coping/Surviving Public Education. The session was filled with passionate educators that started sharing their methods for dealing with the stresses, and of course the conversation turned toward the political situation in Wisconsin and how it has affected teachers over the past four years.
But that wasn't what really drew me in and made me reflect. It was when I was encouraging the group to make sure we are putting out a positive image to the public, and even more so, to let our students share their story about school and the experiences they are having there. I told them it was important that we let students share their voice, because they would be honest. A student won't use Twitter, Facebook or Instagram to say they are loving school and all they are doing and learning......if they don't. We needed to unleash student voice.
And then..........they did.
Two ladies from a nearby high school had joined this session and apparently I said the magic words to get them going. That or maybe I just finally took a breath and they took their chance to share. What followed was an eye-opener for me............and a heart-wrencher.
The two young ladies began by sharing how important it was to them and their friends that teachers get to know them. Not their test scores, or their assessment data or even their grades. To really know them and how they feel. What they are interested in, what they are passionate about, what they do on the weekends, and what they want to become? They want us to know how they like to learn, but also where they like to hang out, what their favorite movies are, what their favorite music is, and who they would love to meet someday. They wanted their teachers to really know them.
But then they shared a twist I didn't see coming. They said, "but what is just as important, is that we want to know you." They wanted to get to know their teachers. They wanted to know what you liked to do on the weekends, where you like to hangout, what hobbies you have, and how you handle your bad days. Their list of real life questions for teachers was endless, and that they look to us for those answers everyday.
So.......touching, right? I mean, it was great that they saw their teachers that way and that they wanted that relationship with their teachers. Personal Learning, not personalized learning. Well, that would be a great wrap to their story. We could walk out feeling uplifted. Encouraged even.
Then one of the girls shared the thought that changed my perspective forever. She said, "It is sad, that many of you don't even realize that 100% of your students, are sitting in front of you with a mask on." She paused......and I could see she had more to share. She slowly slapped my face with the statement that opened my eyes wide, "100% of the students in your classes are stressed, depressed, scared, anxious, sleep-deprived, or suicidal. We are there, sitting in front of you, with the mask we learn to put on each day to get through this thing we call school so we get through this thing called life, and we aren't even learning how to deal with it, because we are worried about passing tests, and getting into our next good school."
I was floored.
Holding back tears as I shook my head in agreement, I literally couldn't speak because I knew I would choke on the words I couldn't find. One of them told us how the students that were high achievers were under great stress to always get top grades, to get into Honors and AP classes so they could go on to get into top colleges or universities. They both shared how the students that struggled in school always felt ashamed, blamed and unwanted. They wanted to escape school because they struggle each day and so often they feel like their best option was to act out so they would be asked to leave the classroom or even be sent home.
But then they shared a scenario that I know exists. The one that happens all to easily to even the teacher with the best intentions. The Wallflower. That girl with brown hair, who sits in the middle of the room. The student that always has C's and now and then a B. The one that doesn't need help, but also isn't rising to the top to be noticed and pushed. The student that blends right into the wall, and is never really known.......to anyone.
What have we done to our students?
What have we turned school into?
When did we lose touch with the fact that we are touching lives everyday?
Have we become talking heads at the front of the class? Spitting out knowledge and content only so that we can assess the student and ensure we taught the standards we have been told are crucial for success in a career or college. Did we forget we are teaching kids?
The two young ladies expressed with great passion, how important it was to them and their friends, that we begin to recognize them as people. People that are growing up and going out into the world, and soon to be leading and managing that world, and possibly even being the decision makers, law writers, and political leaders for our country........ And we want them to make sure they can cover the standards, do a performance task, write an incredible essay, complete the packet of worksheets, study for the AP test, and get an amazing score on their ACT? ...........when what they also want to know is......
How do I decide whether or not I should get in the car?
How can you tell if He or She will be a good boyfriend or girlfriend?
When should I just end the relationship?
When can you tell if trust has been broken?
How do you find the time to do it all?
Why is family more important?
They want the answers to life, and they don't want them from a book, or a blog, or a video. They want them from us. Their teachers. The people they look up to and trust everyday. Sure, they want to learn, be smart, be successful and be productive citizens. But they also know there is so much more to life.
Never knowing that maybe we already were. Share your pride in your students. Don't be afraid to let them see your huge heart. You're a teacher after all. You Are AWESOME!
Who says "Morning Meeting" and "Sharing Time" has to end in elementary school? Maybe the most powerful thing we do as we teach everyday, is to smile and say, "How was your weekend?" Listen......and then say, "Let me tell you what I did."
I'll never forget the talk I had with those two young ladies and the experiences they shared with me that day.