5 Things We Have to Stop Pretending

This post is my response to Scott McLeod's Challenge to name 5 things we must stop pretending in regards to Education.  My friend Steven Weber brought the challenge to me and the rest of our #IBA Voxer group. 

We have to stop pretending that.......

-  student engagement means students are sitting quietly and making eye contact with the teacher.  

-  classrooms need to have four walls, desks in rows, and textbooks for each subject.  

-  the best way to view student learning is by giving the student a test. 

-  student choice and voice ends when students pick the books they would like to read.

-  personalized learning means students taking standardized assessments and then being assigned to groups to read leveled books.

I'm tagging Curt Rees, Joe Mazza, Jimmy Casas, Jennifer Kloczko, and Amy Fadeji to take the challenge.

The Mask

This past weekend I had the opportunity to attend #edcampMadWi in Sun Prairie, Wisconsin.  They have a beautiful school there and this #edcamp draws an amazing crowd of educators.  I was at the first edcamp and haven't missed one yet.  It has become a yearly reunion and I love connecting with these amazing educators that share such awesome ideas, but I also look forward to meeting some new friends as well.

I decided not to propose any sessions this time and instead just decided to attend sessions that sparked my interest or would bring some new learning my way. What I had not prepared for was learning from students. The second session of the day that caught my eye was titled. Coping/Surviving Public Education. The session was filled with passionate educators that started sharing their methods for dealing with the stresses, and of course the conversation turned toward the political situation in Wisconsin and how it has affected teachers over the past four years.

But that wasn't what really drew me in and made me reflect. It was when I was encouraging the group to make sure we are putting out a positive image to the public, and even more so, to let our students share their story about school and the experiences they are having there.  I told them it was important that we let students share their voice, because they would be honest.  A student won't use Twitter, Facebook or Instagram to say they are loving school and all they are doing and learning......if they don't.  We needed to unleash student voice.

And then..........they did.  

Two ladies from a nearby high school had joined this session and apparently I said the magic words to get them going. That or maybe I just finally took a breath and they took their chance to share.  What followed was an eye-opener for me............and a heart-wrencher.

The two young ladies began by sharing how important it was to them and their friends that teachers get to know them. Not their test scores, or their assessment data or even their grades.  To really know them and how they feel.  What they are interested in, what they are passionate about, what they do on the weekends, and what they want to become?  They want us to know how they like to learn, but also where they like to hang out, what their favorite movies are, what their favorite music is, and who they would love to meet someday. They wanted their teachers to really know them. 

But then they shared a twist I didn't see coming.  They said, "but what is just as important, is that we want to know you." They wanted to get to know their teachers.  They wanted to know what you liked to do on the weekends, where you like to hangout, what hobbies you have, and how you handle your bad days.  Their list of real life questions for teachers was endless, and that they look to us for those answers everyday.



So.......touching, right? I mean, it was great that they saw their teachers that way and that they wanted that relationship with their teachers.  Personal Learning, not personalized learning. Well, that would be a great wrap to their story.  We could walk out feeling uplifted. Encouraged even.

Then one of the girls shared the thought that changed my perspective forever. She said, "It is sad, that many of you don't even realize that 100% of your students, are sitting in front of you with a mask on."  She paused......and I could see she had more to share.  She slowly slapped my face with the statement that opened my eyes wide, "100% of the students in your classes are stressed, depressed, scared, anxious, sleep-deprived, or suicidal.  We are there, sitting in front of you, with the mask we learn to put on each day to get through this thing we call school so we get through this thing called life, and we aren't even learning how to deal with it, because we are worried about passing tests, and getting into our next good school."

I was floored.  

Holding back tears as I shook my head in agreement, I literally couldn't speak because I knew I would choke on the words I couldn't find.  One of them told us how the students that were high achievers were under great stress to always get top grades, to get into Honors and AP classes so they could go on to get into top colleges or universities.  They both shared how the students that struggled in school always felt ashamed, blamed and unwanted.  They wanted to escape school because they struggle each day and so often they feel like their best option was to act out so they would be asked to leave the classroom or even be sent home.

But then they shared a scenario that I know exists.  The one that happens all to easily to even the teacher with the best intentions. The Wallflower.  That girl with brown hair, who sits in the middle of the room.  The student that always has C's and now and then a B.  The one that doesn't need help, but also isn't rising to the top to be noticed and pushed. The student that blends right into the wall, and is never really known.......to anyone.

What have we done to our students?  

What have we turned school into?

When did we lose touch with the fact that we are touching lives everyday?

Have we become talking heads at the front of the class? Spitting out knowledge and content only so that we can assess the student and ensure we taught the standards we have been told are crucial for success in a career or college. Did we forget we are teaching kids?

The two young ladies expressed with great passion, how important it was to them and their friends, that we begin to recognize them as people.  People that are growing up and going out into the world, and soon to be leading and managing that world, and possibly even being the decision makers, law writers, and political leaders for our country........ And we want them to make sure they can cover the standards, do a performance task, write an incredible essay, complete the packet of worksheets, study for the AP test, and get an amazing score on their ACT? ...........when what they also want to know is......

How do I decide whether or not I should get in the car?

How can you tell if He or She will be a good boyfriend or girlfriend?

When should I just end the relationship?

When can you tell if trust has been broken?

How do you find the time to do it all?

Why is family more important?

They want the answers to life, and they don't want them from a book, or a blog, or a video.  They want them from us.  Their teachers.  The people they look up to and trust everyday. Sure, they want to learn, be smart, be successful and be productive citizens. But they also know there is so much more to life.

Don't ever be fooled by the mask our students wear everyday.  And don't be fooled into thinking, "Oh C'mon....My students don't wear masks."  We all know the folks that have worn masks in front of us. Not showing us their pain. Smiling, making us laugh, showing off their talents.  All the while.....suffering in silence......wanting to make us proud. 

Never knowing that maybe we already were. Share your pride in your students. Don't be afraid to let them see your huge heart.  You're a teacher after all.  You Are AWESOME!




Who says "Morning Meeting" and "Sharing Time" has to end in elementary school?  Maybe the most powerful thing we do as we teach everyday, is to smile and say, "How was your weekend?"  Listen......and then say, "Let me tell you what I did."


I'll never forget the talk I had with those two young ladies and the experiences they shared with me that day.


#Relationships

New Year. Old Commitments. New Plan.

Well, it's a new year and like everyone else I'm making some resolutions.  It's that time when we try to commit to making ourselves better.  I can't lie, I'm attempting to do the same. What I will try to do differently from my resolutions in the past is that instead of making "Big Hairy Audacious Goals," is that this time I will be creating goals that have daily action steps. What I have discovered with experience and from my PLN is that the best goals only get checked off when they are followed with actions, small steps taken day by day.  Jay Posick, Josh Stumpenhorst and Spike Cook have shown me how this practice can make the difference.

So to restate my same ole, same ole goals, but with a refreshed effort and an action plan they are as follows:

1.  Lose 72 lbs.  - This may seem like a huge goal to many but to me this means just losing 6 lbs per month.  It means controlling portions and eliminating snacks (except a fruit or veggie).  I hope to blow past this goal as I have read many posts from Facebook about folks that had amazing results in just one year, but for now I will be happy with this goal.

2.  Increase Fitness.  - This goal is so vague it's almost shameful, but to be honest if I do anything to increase my fitness it will be a step in the right direction.  The key here will be making it daily.  No matter how long or what the type, exercise daily will be a key.  Establish a routine.

3.  Be More Gracious.  - I feel that I made a big impact with this goal last year and while I did a better job of showing gratitude this past year, I feel like I can still do more in this area.  Not only does it make others feel good, but it honestly makes me feel good and I will take all the positive vibes I can get.

4.  Be a Coach.  - This is something that I have believed in for quite a while and I think I have made strides here as well, but now it is time to become a model in this area and to develop an expertise. I have plenty of more reading to do and I am looking forward to a workshop with Jim Knight coming up in a couple months.  I want to be a Teacher's Coach and I want to be great at it.  Time for some more reading, time for more #educoach chats on Twitter and time to develop the courage to follow through on what I have learned and what I believe in.

5.  Be A Sharer.  - This is where I should almost state the goal as: be more courageous.  I share a lot on Twitter and Facebook.  I share articles, blog posts and videos with my staff.  But what I've always felt a little weak at was being a presenter.  I had the opportunity to present over the Winter Break and I actually enjoyed it.  It went well. I have watched some of the best presenters and I think I have said to myself I could never be that good, that funny, that witty, or even as smart. Pictured to the above is Joe Sanfelippo, a good friend and an incredible presenter.  He's a superintendent here in Wisconsin and I have met him several times and I can tell you honestly with no intention of helping a friend, he is a presenter you must see someday. His humor and wit is only seconded by his passion for his district and helping students and teachers be successful. He has helped me build some courage to try. It's time for me to conquer this fear and believe in myself and start to be a presenter at conferences. I have learned a lot over the years and especially through my connections on Twitter and Voxer. It's time for me to share what I've learned and to improve my presentation skills. I will try and I will get better, but I will be a presenter for at least 2 conferences/workshops this upcoming year.



I've never felt more empowered than I have recently and with the support I have had from my wife, my kids and some of the best friends I have ever had (shout out to my Voxer Brothers and Voxer Family) I feel like I can attain these goals with more ease than I once believed possible. I truly hope other educators get the chance to connect with such positive and supportive people as I have met over the last 4 years. They are wonderful and I am thankful for them for so many things, but mostly for believing in me and making me a better person.  Now......it's just time to: